Expectations

Zach and I are going up to near Crater Lake (Oregon) this weekend with my parents. It's one of the few traditions my family has. Normally more family would come but my siblings are literally traveling around the world right now. I think it will be nice though to have some time just with Zach, my parents and I. We work together so while we spend a lot of time together the time is business (casual business even but still business.) Both sets always wish we'd have more non work time to hang out. Three days by a lake? OK!



The drive will give Z and I chance to decide on some general wedding issues. With any luck, we will be able to use the weekend to lay down expectations. We need to do this as early as possible. Gather the lessons we've learned in the past few days and bundle them with the lessons we've learned throwing random parties here and there with my family and lay out a strategy for how we will exchange information. Already we're realizing how hard it is to take suggestions because the suggestions may be labeled as such but they feel a wee bit more like expectations.

I sound a bit compulsive here. Maybe. But on our long bike home last night Z said that he realizes he has few strong opinions about our wedding. Except one: He wants it to be ours. Not our parents'. Not expectations'. But ours. We're learning early on that if this is really important we will have to draw very clear lines. Maybe at every step. And while at first it may confuse our parents, they will understand, and I think respect this. We've just got to figure out a way to explain it to them.

See you on Monday!